Mama Joy's Filling My Cup

Hello lovelies... are you parenting too? 

Mini heart explosions, staring the day away observing their every move, nuzzling so hard it brings you to tears, feeling a kind of deep love that's hard to put into words? It’s so true, all of it... and it brings such joy to my life— having a baby.

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It’s not possible to quantify how much happiness bringing another human life into this world gives a parent. Let’s just agree it’s absolutely the best thing ever! Suddenly you're home with this amazing being and you feel the desperation to do things as if there is a set guide book on how to be the best parent raising the greatest kid on earth— anyone else feel that? Take some deep breaths, tune-in to your courage, faith and trust your intuition. You will feel so connected with your tiny babe and in my experience... you will not be lead astray. You're a brilliant team. You are YOUR team, no one else's. 

Of course, we will call friends, ask our own mother's and lean into resources for guidance, especially if you're a first time parent. In my quest to find answers to questions during my pregnancy and once our little bunny entered the world, I came across one too many articles that frankly scared the bejeezus out of me. I wasn’t intending to stumble upon so many; “what they don’t tell you” kind of stories about vaginas, fatigue and more. No offense, I’m an open book and I like some insight as much as the next one, but I really wanted and needed to focus on all the good and encourage my powerful mind and body to keep manifesting the greatest experience of a lifetime. 

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So for all of you; mamas, soon-to-be, hoping to be or praying for a miracle. YOU are incredible. I REPEAT, trust in this perfect journey and your undeniable intuition. Mama joys are an everyday occurrence and as easy as it can be to slip into negative thought patterns of doubt, worry and even failure... I PRACTICE catching myself, shifting perspective and choosing trust, courage and joy. We are six months into parenthood and a good portion of it feels like I’m getting to re-live being a child. Parents, do you feel me? Here's some fun things to try if you're just getting your feet wet. 

FUN and FUNNY (me not the baby)

  • Early to bed, early to rise… passing out mid meal, with a bit of drool. 
  • Making mouth noises ranging from fart sounds to motorboats.  
  • Singing songs like you know the melody and lyrics but just make up your own, terribly cute isn't it?
  • Performing giggly goo’s and monkey moves as if that is strong choice to get your babe to laugh. It is though, am I wrong?
  • Challenging your character voices during story time to see if your baby recognizes the changes... the looks I get from our girl are priceless. 

These are just a few of the ways in which we get to visit our playful minds again, all for the sake of getting the love and attention from our little explorer looking to discover new things. 

HONOR

  • The ability to pull yourself out of a deep slumber at lightening speed to feed and or nurture your babe back to sleep. And then yourself.
  • Becoming Octamom or dad, yes a parent with multiplying, helpful appendages where suddenly even your toes, feet & elbows become more useful than you thought was humanly possible. 
  • Your partner or whatever kind of system you have raising your child. We are all imperfect and feel it so verbal validation and giving our loving support as consistently as changing diapers is a major WIN on all accounts for everyone.  

It's incredibly important to applaud yourself often and wrap your parenting team up in compassion. We are responsible for a new life and it's not easy... honor all that you are doing.   

DELIGHT

  • The milestone changes that happen so quickly, from smiling while they sleep, giggling out loud, roll over, get teeth, hug you and taste food for the first time, to name a few.  
  • The connection you create between your tribe... the bond is incredible. It's indescribable and will cause your heart to swell repeatedly. 
  • The poops, especially the explosive one's that travel beyond the diaper and can cause a 15 min time-out at any part of your day. Just lean into a fun pew-wee potty song and it will be over fast. You just must delight in this. 

Sometimes we get so busy we miss what's happening right in front of us. The number of times I get delightfully sidetracked from perhaps what I was intending to do to see our girl play with a toy independently, explore a new space, sleep like an angel... or whatever it may be, is worthy of reminding myself to be present. 

LOVE

  • Speak it, show it, be it. I don't believe a baby can be over loved in any capacity. Smother away, I say... a million kisses a day.
  • Relish in the love you receive, embrace it fully and let it guide you like a light through the questionable, worry-some times. 
  • LOVE yourself for all the choices you make, the things you learn and grow from as a parent and for braving what some would consider being the most challenging thing a human can experience— raising a happy, healthy, kind child. AMEN

My heart was set on writing a blog about a few of the extraordinary pieces of parenthood that make us smile. The LOVE we give and receive is simply perfection. You can't go wrong with loving your babe. The joys of being a parent are steadfast. Growing abundantly daily. Remind yourself of these very things when difficult moments arrive. And there will be difficult moments. If any of you parents who have far more experience than me have some fun stories to share back... I'm ALL ears! Thank you so so much for popping by. Happy parenting! 

My mother’s gifts of courage to me were both large and small. The latter are woven so subtly into the fabric of my psyche that I can hardly distinguish where she stops and I begin.
— Maya Angelou— Mom & Me Quotes

xo Andrea

LOVE IS EVERYWHERE, DO YOU TAKE TIME TO SEE IT?

Hello there, how are you guys today?  

I've recently re-read my blog intro and realized I have a little updating to do! I'm struck by the notion that so much of what brings me joy is taking time to see the little daily doses of love that surround us. Since I didn't have a category titled "Everyday Joys" I was inclined to create one.  I hope this will be a space for weekly posts, simple and true that uplift YOU! That rhymed... a poet and I didn't know it, how fun! 

Ask yourself: Do you take time to see & feel love daily? Do you pause long enough to enjoy the presence of it? What does it look like for you? Can I inspire you to soak it up?

Just a few short weeks ago I found myself in the winter wonderland of Aré, Sweden tucked into a beautiful log cabin with my fiancé, Erik to wrap up 2016 with some wonderful friends. I stroll into the kitchen and catch myself gazing through delicate heart wreath’s hanging in the window and out into the magic of Mother Nature. I smile, I feel peaceful and simply; am reminded that LOVE is everywhere. 

Take time to see it. 

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The common eye only sees the outside of things, and judges by that, but the seeing eye pierces through and sees and reads the heart and soul finding there capacities which the outside didn’t indicate or promise, and which the other kind couldn’t detect.
— Mark Twain

Lot's of love to you all and I hope 2017 is bringing you lot's of joyful moments so far. I love hearing from you guys, so drop me a comment or question if you have one... anytime.

XO ANDREA

HOW DEEP IS YOUR LOVE?

Happy Soulful Sunday... May I ask you "How deep is your love?" 

I peeled myself out of my 5PM jet lag slumber yesterday to head to my 3rd quarter meeting with the tremendous women of The New Hollywood and boy am I glad I did. As a lot of LOVE and enthusiasm is shared in this group our mission is to encourage each other to Rise Higher, Shine Brighter and Give Back. The reminders of self-love came through in several inspiring ways, so today I feel inclined to take a minute to connect with all of you on this. 

Photo by  Erik Almas  

Photo by Erik Almas 

Self-love is wildly talked about all over the place. Although it's something universally discussed and we bloggers can give all the tips we want, it's delicately personal isn't it? What self-love looks like for me may look completely different for you. Take a minute though, grab a pen and paper and ask yourself:

  1. What is self-love?
  2. What does it mean to me?
  3. How can I put energy toward this daily? 
  4. What are the results I can envision for committing to these acts of self-love?

I'm hoping this exercise will get you started. If you're someone that's lacking awareness around something you would even refer to self-love, that's ok too. Think of creating rituals, from your rituals you will expand and begin to widen your scope and naturally make space for more self-love over time. When you sit with yourself and write these things down you can identify what this will look like for you. How nice would that feel? Keep your paper, heck post it on your mirror as a quick reference. Stay connected to your self-love.

4 Tips To Creating Self-Love

  1. Seek joy- think of something that makes you smile, what gives you an endorphin uplift, what makes you laugh.
  2. Know that your body is worthy of unconditional love- thank your body parts for all they do, appreciate what you've been given, nurture your body mindfully.
  3. Find your happy place- sit quietly anywhere and just be, feel the air surrounding you, hear whatever noises are present, smell the scent before you, feel it's simplicity. 

Depending on your generation and musical preference take a listen to "How Deep Is Your Love" by the Bee Gee's or Calvin Harris and grab a dancing partner or even a fan to blow your hair and you'll be smiling and feeling lovely in no time, just imagine you asking yourself the lyrics.... and let the good self-loving roll! 

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world
— Lucille Ball

Let me know how this goes gang. Remember it's a practice, a practice so worthy of doing. I love hearing from you.